The limitless nature of life!

This Aaron Chang photograph of the Milky Way Galaxy reminds me of the limitless nature of life and the cosmos! It’s easy to become caught up in the day to day challenges of living and forget that we live on a rock spinning on its axis at thousands of miles per hour, hurling around the sun in a system that rotates around our galaxy which is interconnected with other galaxies trillions of light years away. Sometimes, dI coach people to look up at the sky every once in a while to remind oneself how truly amazing this whole experience is!

An Inspiring Success Story

Adam Case, the 35-year-old offensive coordinator of the Denver Broncos never played college football and was a mediocre high school tight end by all accounts. Through a combination of hard work, ingenuity, and tenacity he worked his way up the ranks of professional football to become an invaluable part of the Broncos offense!

I love success stories like this because as a life coach, business coach, and sports psychologist I am constantly helping others overcome challenges and accomplish things they never thought possible. As I often say: if you want to achieve anything difficult you must believe that it is possible, take tons of action, and tweak your game along the way. In other words, it is essential to constantly learn and make adjustments along the way. Clearly, Adam Case did all that and more!

Moving through Denial

Jane Isay writes eloquently about her marriage to a gay Psychiatrist in her book and cover story in Psychology Today magazine. She lived a lie for over a decade of marriage before her husband told her the truth. As she acknowledged, Ms. Isay preferred to live a fantasy of the perfect marriage than face the truth of a marriage devoid of sexual intimacy. Once his secret was out, they continued to live a lie with their friends, family, and professional community for years until it became nearly impossible to continue.

Facing the truth and moving through denial is often the most powerful and challenging thing we can do. A man came to see me recently who was never attracted to his wife sexually. For years he cheated on her until one day he got caught. For the next six years he stopped the extramarital activities only to stuff his sex life. He quit working with me rather than tell his wife his truth. His guilt and fear were too strong and he wasn’t ready to come clean.

I coach people to live and speak their truth. This is often difficult and takes courage. And yet, there is no better way to live!

The Challenges of Health Care

An article in the Review section by Elizabeth Rosenthal of The New York Times points to the challenges and potential fixes to providing affordable care to all Americans. Some 80 percent of all health care expenditures are used for just 10 percent of the people and much of that is during the last weeks of life or in treating chronic illness. And then there are ridiculous stories of hospitals bilking patients for little stuff like five hundred dollars a stitch or a hundred thousand dollars for antivenin for a snake bite. Obama-care is a start and a frustrating one at that. For instance, we could cap fees for certain procedures or reduce medical school tuition by requiring service but all these initiatives take political will and as we all know, change is not easy. We could pay more for preventative care and less for traditional care. The ideas are available. The more we educate ourselves, the better. Many counties pay much less than Americans due for better care!

Being Old is a State of Mind

I haven’t seen the movie yet but Robert Redford at 77 has a lot to share about aging, acting, and life. For instance, he is completely comfortable looking like himself – no plastic surgery or Botox. He is clearly an adventurous soul, cares about the environment, budding film makers and challenging himself even in his late seventies – pretty cool!

It's never too late to change

An interesting article in the Sunday Times sports section on Tom Coughlin, the New York Giants head coach. As a lifelong Giants fan I’ve watched Coughlin mature as a coach and leader well into his sixties. At first, I didn’t like him for many of the same reasons as his players. He seemed too uptight, rigid, and inflexible; qualities that perturb me in others not just head football coaches. But Coughlin, too his credit, changed just enough to win over his players and pull together a Super Bowl victory and the rest is history as they say! Change, at any age, is challenging. And yet, those of us who embrace change, while retaining the core of who we are that makes us unique and special, often find life easier and more rewarding. I love to teach and exemplify emotional flexibility. It’s a terrific way to live. Remember: it’s never too late to change!

“At a time when many laid-off workers have to take a pay cut to land a new job, members of the millennial generation are jumping ship from their companies after just two years,” as stated in an article I just read in the Los Angeles Times. What does this mean?

As many of us already know, the business climate has changed a great deal since the recession of 2008. Americans, in general, are making less money and working more, finding it harder than ever to land compelling opportunities. I have friends and clients who got “spit out” of corporate America during the recession and have had a super-challenge getting back in. This is especially true if they are older. Not long ago, a cable TV channel interviewed me regarding my perspective on the best ways help discouraged job seekers in their forties and fifties. The essence of what I said boiled down to two things: creativity and perseverance.

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