I’m sitting at the Jetblue gate in LAX reading The Times as I wait for my plane to board. The cover article addresses a recent climate change study that specifically points to carbon emissions as a most likely catalyst for more intense drought conditions in California and other climate related problems around the world. Maybe it’s time for political candidates to stop denying climate change and band together before life on this planet gets even harder? After all, isn’t living happy, successful, and healthy lives challenging enough without having to deal with drought, giant storms, and dying fish?
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I was speaking with a client this am about connecting for the sake of connecting and he replied: “Its hard to find people who want to spend the time, put down their cell phones, and really get immersed in the moment.” This man’s life has become richer and more fulfilling the more he took me up on my consistent and persistent offer to generate more “Being” in his life, a life that was filled with constant doing. Being a doer is wonderful and can lead to material success but without “Being” it is often empty and unfulfilling. So take a few moments each day and learn to connect with yourself and others just for the sake of the experience and watch the positive changes that occur slowly over time!
DR. BRETT’S THOUGHTS:
In February, my girlfriend and I attended the Northern Trust Open at Riviera Country Club here in Los Angeles. We followed Sergio Garcia’s group for most of the final round. I kept whispering in my girlfriend’s ear that Sergio, a top ten golfer in the world, was going to find a way to lose; which he did. I wasn’t being pessimistic or picking on Sergio. I was merely observing his attitude throughout the round and knew he wasn’t going to get it done. Instead of staying positive and upbeat he seemed constantly irritated and tense long before he choked on the seventeenth hole by snap hooking the ball off the tee and then three putting on the green.
Sergio’s attitude has been suspect on and off for years. Having the right attitude – staying positive and spirited no matter what – goes along way in sports, business, and life. The good news is that our attitude is something we can constantly work on and improve. Staying positive, as we all know, isn’t always easy and yet the more we exercise, meditate, and practice mindfulness (nonjudgmental focus of attention on our thoughts, feelings, and behavior) the better it gets. So improve your attitude and watch your life (game) improve.
DR. BRETT’S THOUGHTS:
I was talking to a client the other day about intimacy and the necessity of slowing down to allow yourself real time to experience yourself and your partner more meaningfully. In 2015 many of us live rushed, hurried lives that might be full in some respects but often don’t leave us with enough quality time to connect deeply with ourselves and those we love. I was in a cabin in the mountains in Los Padres National Forest over the July 4th weekend and had a great time reading, writing and connecting with Veronica and our two dogs. The television didn’t work and I had no cell phone coverage. It was a cool experience from a slowing down and ‘being here now’ perspective. I highly recommend unplugging every so often, getting in touch with nature, those we love and especially ourselves!
Dr. Brett’s Thoughts:
I was watching the Irish Open last weekend and took a quick pic when I realized that the golf course was Royal County Down, a famous links style course in Northern Ireland cut along the windswept Irish Sea, that my twin brother and I played back in 2007. At the time, I was experiencing my first bout of severe insomnia related to an esoteric form of energy work that later damaged my central nervous system. In addition to not sleeping I was dealing with the shock and shame of massive investment losses related to a stock fraud. Needless to say, no matter what I tried, I could not enjoy myself that week.
Sometimes in life we go through rough times. When we do it’s easy to loose perspective especially when faced with anxiety and depression. One of the many lessons I learned the hard way from that prolonged experience with insomnia and the anxiety and depression that soon followed was to do what feels right and to honor myself. As gorgeous as that course and the others in Ireland were, I had no business being there. I had agreed to go months before my difficulties began and followed thru anyway against my better judgment. Listening to your intuition, changing your mind or just saying no can be invaluable at times, save you a lot of grief, and sometimes even more!
Dr. Brett’s Thoughts:
A former neighbor in Westport, CT sent me this pic yesterday. It shows a cute little house on a great property with every tree but one recently cut down. I sold the house in April and it will soon be demolished. Having outgrown my experience there I finally let the house go, a huge challenge after nearly eighteen years of home ownership.
Most people resist change. 2500 years ago the Buddha talked a lot about impermanence – the essential nature of life on this planet. All things change and yet most of us spend so much time resisting this truth. What if we could learn to embrace change and to live knowing that to cling onto things is folly and only invites suffering? What if we could let go more and thus suffer less? I truly believe living this way is possible but we need to practice with little things; learn to accept little things more and notice how that gradually changes your perspective on the larger things in life!
Dr. Brett’s Thoughts:
Each week I enjoy reading Adam Bryant’s Corner Office interview in The New York Times business section. This week, Mr. Bryant interviewed Joel Peterson, the Chairman of JetBlue Airways, a man who grew up in a middle class family in Michigan. Asked why people tend to trust him, Mr. Peterson said, “For me, a lot of it is listening. I’m a really good listener. It’s not a technique – I’m really interested in what people have to say. But it does develop trust as a byproduct. If you’re authentic, open, you call things as they are, you are direct and you listen well, that develops trust.”
I love it. Sometimes, I begin my coaching process with athletes and entrepreneurs by teaching them how to become better listeners. I make all sorts of arguments as to why listening well is so important, one being that your spouse and children will benefit too. After all, when we listen well not only do we engender trust but we show caring too. And the key is to do it genuinely, not as part of an agenda. When I teach people to network I call the process Networking in the Here and Now. The idea is that when you come from nothing and want nothing from any one particular person, you show up more authentic and real. Although it’s important to have an overall intention for what you want to create and accomplish, like obtaining a new job, the process itself concerns staying present and showing a genuine interest in others. Not only is it a great way to network, it’s a great way to live!
Dr. Brett’s Thoughts:
The idea that Tom Brady didn’t know what was happening with the deflation of his footballs before last year’s A.F.C Championship game against the Colts seems silly. I’ve heard a lot of arguments on ESPN and read several articles. Like many others I’m not concerned about 12 PSI versus 13 PSI or the nature of the rule that Mr. Brady apparently broke. It’s the cover up that I find insulting. I’ve always liked and respected Brady, even though I’m a lifelong Giants fan. I like and respect Bill Clinton. What I don’t like is lying and denying, a part of our business and political culture that seems all too common. Wouldn’t it be nice if just once someone rich and famous would admit to wrongdoing immediately, apologize and accept the consequence of their actions? When Bill Clinton waved his fingers and denied having sexual relations with ‘that woman’ almost everyone on the planet knew he was lying. I believe most of us feel similar about Tom Brady. It isn’t cool.