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03 Jul

Is happiness always a choice?

question asked by Anonymous

The short answer: yes and no. The long answer: its complicated! It’s very challenging to “choose” happiness if you are living like most people with a smorgasbord of unconscious or semi-conscious habits and expectations. One key to living a successful life is to become more aware of your conditioning. In other words, it is fundamental to become aware of your beliefs, expectations, and desires, many of which are not conscious. Once you have awareness you can then “choose” to keep those beliefs that serve you and change the one’s that ...

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01 Jul

What can I do right now to improve the way I communicate with my employees?

question asked by Anonymous

Let’s begin with the premise that most managers and business owners don’t check in regularly with their employees to see what is working for them and what is not. Part of the reason is that they are busy. Another reason is that it takes time and patience to do so. It also requires us to truly listen to others. When I discuss listening I am referring to listening in a present non-defensive way. This means that you are primarily engaged with the other person not your own thoughts. Many people are often listening to their own thoughts or preparing what ...

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29 Jun

How do I know if i'm truly doing what I believe in everyday or if i'm settling? When will I know for sure I am on the right path to my bliss?

question asked by Anonymous

Great question. Those who settle know it. Those who follow their hearts know it too. Deep down, we all know when we are fooling ourselves. We know it when we are living a lie or telling ourselves half-truths. One of the keys to success in life and business is to follow our internal guidance system. In others words, we must develop and trust our intuition. This is not always easy. Many of us have to slow down enough to be able to listen. Often our lives are so intense and fast paced that we can’t hear what the inner voice is telling us. It is ...

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27 Jun

How Do I Get Out of My Own Way Regarding Success?

question asked by Anonymous

Almost everyone has some form of self-sabotage in their life. Why is that? Because most of us weren’t raised by Buddhas. In other words, the people around us are flawed. As a result, we have patterns from our early environments that interfere with our success and happiness later in life. These patterns are habitual, repeated over and over. It is our conditioning. Successful people, in general, become aware of their negative conditioning and do something about it. The key to changing any negative pattern in our lives is to become aware of the pattern ...

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14 Jun

What are some strategies or practices I can implement to grow financially?

question asked by Anonymous

When we decide we want to grow, whether it is financially, emotionally, or spiritually, the most important thing we can do is to look at dramas and distractions in our lives and systematically eliminate them. This takes time, patience, and dedication. Many times, a coach or mentor is necessary as well, depending on how complex the moving parts to our lives are. Very few people can put together a truly successful business or career without some coaching or guidance. The best of us tend to have the best coaches! When we eliminate the distractions in ...

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10 Jun

What can I do everyday to improve my overall attitude toward my life and my profession?

question asked by Anonymous

Attitude is everything, well almost!. The most important thing we can do to improve our attitude is to make a decision that no matter what we will make improving it a priority. In general, we get what we focus on in life. Thus, if we make self-improvement a priority and put the time, energy, and money toward it, we will improve! Let’s discuss the time piece first. Almost everything good in life takes time. Successful relationships require a commitment to constantly communicate. This takes time! Business success takes time. Putting in the time to ...

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06 Jun

With so many things each day pulling me in different directions, how can I create the life I've always wanted?

question asked by Anonymous

I’ve answered aspects of this questions before. First, we must eliminate the dramas and distractions in our life. This will take time, patience, and often hard work. Once we have eliminated most of the garbage from of our lives, we must prioritize again what is most important to us and focus on it. If a major part of our life, such as our family or our job, takes up so much time that we don’t seem to have enough time or energy to create the life we really want, then we have a real problem. Many times, eliminating all the extraneous stuff creates ...

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02 Jun

I love my wife, but our relationship has lost its fire and passion. It's all about the kids and the household and has been that way for years. Can I get the fire back or has that connection run its course for us?

question asked by Anonymous

A lot of relationships loose their fire and passion over time. Part of the reason is that most couples don’t do the little things to keep the passion alive. It takes a big commitment by both parties to maintain a fun, playful, and productive partnership. The first and most important step is to decide to do something about the lack of passion. Honest and open communication is necessary here. This is often difficult for many because generally speaking most people are afraid of hurting another’s feelings. Remember, fear is deadly. It impedes our ...

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